Mindsets

Our minds are very powerful. It amazes me how the mind has the ability to determine what direction we go in our lives. Our mindsets have the ability to determine our rise or our demise.  For example, your mindset can determine how much money you make, what kind of job you have, where you live, who you marry, if you get married, if you have kids, if your successful and the list goes on and on and on. You don’t believe me? Think about a person whom you believe to be successful, whether they are famous or not. They could have a really good job, or maybe they have a nice home, car, clothes etc. Maybe the person whom you deem successful has completed college or has moved from a bad neighborhood. Whatever the success looks like if you were to have conversation with them I guarantee you they would tell you they got to where they did with hard work and believing in themselves. The fact that they believed in themselves has everything to do with their mindset. So, sense our mindset has such an impact on our lives than why is it so hard for most of us to keep a positive one and move forward with “success” whatever that is for us? Well there are many factors as to why it’s so difficult for us to maintain or obtain a positive mindset but today I am going to go through 3 of them just to get you thinking. Okay number 1. Distractions. Distractions are a major, major impact on our mindsets and the way we think about things. For example, there are many who initially attend college with the mindset to graduate, get a good job and take care of themselves but when distractions such as a relationships or unexpected financial issues arise, these things have the ability to change a person’s mindset about school, which in return can change the complete outcome of a person’s life. Number 2. Emotions. This should really be first. Our emotions have the ability to mess us up in so many ways if we allow them too and most of us do allow them too at one time or another. For example, you plan on staying at your job for 5 years before seeking a promotion. You’re on year 4 and your starting to become inpatient and want to seek your promotion now. If you go for your promotion early you run the risk of not getting the full increase you can have in year 5. So if you allow your emotions to change your mindset you can loose your focus on your big picture as well as the bigger increase. Lastly number 3, people or influence. Yep friends, family, co-workers etc. usually it’s the ones closest to us that have the most affect on the way we think about things vs. strangers. For example, you want to start a business and you share your ideas with your family. They try to be supportive but because it’s not their vision it’s easier for them to discourage you with their questions, thoughts and opinions, which can lead to a change of mindset for you and possibly cause you to forfeit your dream of having your own business. So, what can you do about changing your mindset? Well you can do a few things. For starters you can change your circle of friends and whom you allow in your environment. You have to protect your mind as if it’s a precious jewel, if you don’t know body else will. Secondly, do not be moved by your emotions! I know that seems very difficult to do at times but it is very necessary. It just takes practice. Sometimes playing into our emotions even just a little bit can lead to a major disaster in our lives so please take authority of your emotions and do not allow them to take authority over you! Lastly, stay focused on the BIG PICTURE! This is my favorite one. What you’re going through in your life right now is only a piece to your entire puzzle. If you make long term decisions based off this one piece of your puzzle you could be making a mistake that will change the entire picture of your life! Think about it, if you decide to quit your job based on your manager getting on your nerves and you were up for a promotion you just forfeited your entire big picture based off that small piece of the puzzle of your manager getting on your nerves. So if you don’t take anything else with you from this blog, than you might need to change your mindset, just kidding! For real though, I hope this opened your mind about mindsets and the importance of making sure yours is in the right place.